The Ultimate Guide To Your Maid Of Honor Speech

The Ultimate Guide To Your Maid Of Honor Speech

There’s no bigger compliment than being chosen as the maid of honor at a wedding. It’s a sign of trust and love, so of course you want to do it perfectly!

The maid of honor has a list of duties to make the bride’s day extra special, including making an unforgettable speech.

The Ultimate Guide To Your Maid Of Honor Speech

This guide will help you write the perfect speech, with a step-by-step guide, top tips, and some of the best examples we could find. So, take a seat, grab a pen, and let’s get started!

What Is A Maid Of Honor Speech?

It is a long standing tradition for the best man and maid of honor to formally address the bride and groom in front of their guests.

It is an important duty for the bride-appointed maid of honor to carry out on the wedding day to express appreciation and congratulations to the happy couple.

We all know that speeches can be terrifying, no matter how good you are at public speaking, because it’s so important to get it right. An amazing speech can make the bride’s day absolutely perfect.

With the right preparation, you will be able to deliver an iconic speech that will be a fond memory for the bride and groom to look back on in the years to come.

Types Of Speeches

When it comes down to it, it’s completely up to you which direction you take your maid of honor speech. You can decide to make it funny, emotional, or unique.

When deciding what kind of speech you want to make, you should think about your own personality and your relationship with the bride.

An extroverted maid of honor who is a sister to the bride might be happy to make a longer speech due to the familiarity with the bride and the family dynamic.

On the other hand, a more introverted person who is a childhood friend of the bride might want to make their speech shorter but more emotional as they talk about how the bride has grown over the years.

Whatever you decide, your maid of honor speech should follow some basic guidelines so you can really make an impact. We will go into more detail later in this guide. 

Speech Timing

Following dinner during the reception, the wedding speeches usually start. Traditionally, the best man or the father of the bride speaks first, followed by the maid of honor.

Your speech should last between three and seven minutes. That is lengthy enough to keep guests engaged but not so long that people might become distracted or have off-topic discussions.

Your Speech Template

Your maid of honor speech should begin with the bride. After briefly introducing yourself, start talking about the bride and how you met.

You should emphasize the qualities you love about her as well as how beautiful she looks as a bride!

Once you’ve talked about the bride, you should offer your congratulations and well wishes. Express your happiness for her on her wedding day and gratitude for being chosen as her maid of honor.

You should wish her and the groom all the best for the future.

Then, you can go on to talk about your friendship with the bride with a personal story. It could be heartfelt or funny, but avoid anything embarrassing!

Remember who’s at the wedding and what she might not want her guests to know!

After your anecdote, talk more about the bride’s character and who she is as a person. Think about the positivity she brings to your life and why she is your best friend.

You can also give some fun facts about the bride that show how well you know her.

Now’s the time to talk about the bride and groom as a couple. Tell the guests something about them and their story of how they fell in love.

You can talk about how perfect they are for each other or how they bring out the best in each other.

Finally, end your speech with another thank you and more well wishes. Give them your blessing and express your love for them again.

Thank them once again for letting you be a part of their special day. Once you’ve done this, you can congratulate them with a toast! Take a drink because you deserve it!

Things To Think About When Writing Your Speech

When brainstorming ideas for your maid of honor speech, ask yourself these questions for some inspiration when deciding what to include:

  • Who will be speaking before or after you? Will it affect the content of your speech? You might want to thank them for their speech before, or introduce them at the end of your own speech.
  • Is there a happy memory of the newlyweds that you can think of? A memory like this should definitely be included in your speech.
  • Is there anything you’d like to say to the groom? Maybe a few light-hearted tips for handling his bride during trying times.
  • What do you see in the couple’s future? Is there any advice you would want to give them?

Top Tips For The Best Maid Of Honor Speech

Top Tips For The Best Maid Of Honor Speech

When writing your speech, keep in mind these helpful tips to make your speech an absolute hit!

Brainstorm

Start the creative process by noting any thoughts, feelings, or memories that come to mind when you think of the bride.

This enables you to sketch out all of the key points you want to make and then fill them in with information. Refer to our section on the best questions to ask yourself when writing your speech.

Avoid Generic Praise

Use interesting and engaging anecdotes that show the bride’s personality. Showing her personality with stories is much better than just telling the guest that she’s great.

This makes for a more heartfelt and authentic speech, and it demonstrates that you know the bride well.

Don’t Mention Exes

Nobody wants to be reminded of previous relationships, especially in front of loved ones, close friends, and a new spouse.

Maintain a cheerful tone throughout your speech, and it will reflect favorably on you. The last thing you want to do is sound  like you’re trying to make fun of your friend.

Use Pauses

Each joke should be followed by a little pause to allow the audience to laugh. You won’t give anyone time to laugh or even understand the next sentence if you start speaking right away.

Remember that a funny opening can help you draw the audience’s attention for one or two minutes, but the speech’s important points will keep them engaged all the way through.

Remember That It’s Not About You

Even though many of the stories should center on your time with your friend, you shouldn’t be the main subject.

You shouldn’t mention your name again once you’ve given a brief introduction of yourself. Simply put, you serve as a means of illustrating how wonderful the newlyweds are.

Don’t Use Inside Jokes

Avoid using a joke or situation that other wedding guests would need to be there to appreciate. People will likely miss it if they don’t understand the context.

It’s okay to lightheartedly make fun of your friend, but avoid making them feel uncomfortable or embarrassed.

Practice

You’ll feel more at ease the more times you read your speech out loud.  Starting at least a week beforehand, practice your speech twice daily, and record it a few times so you can hear your pacing and tone.

Additionally, practice the speech in front of friends to see whether your jokes are funny. You can also try practicing in front of a mirror to perfect your physical presence.

Perfect Speech Examples

For Laughs

Well, for those of you whom I haven’t had the chance to meet yet, my name is [NAME]. [BRIDE] and I have been best friends for around 10 years.

We first met at work one day, when she stole my carrot cake out of the fridge in the lunchroom and I threw away her pineapple yogurt cartons in revenge.

I never had a sister, but [BRIDE] has been my stand-in sister for all these years. You could say we are even closer than sisters. We don’t fight like sisters, but we do wear each other’s clothes.

Somehow she can still fit into my clothes, but I can’t fit into hers anymore. I’m sure that is just because her dryer must be shrinking them.

I knew [BRIDE] had found the one when [GROOM] walked into her life. You could see that it was love at first, second, and third sight.

Clearly [GROOM] is charming and it seems to me he offers her what she needs – a strong arm, a kind ear, and an American Express Black Card.

I trust [BRIDE] and [GROOM] completely. I remember the time I asked them to watch my dog, Benji, when I went skiing in Europe.

They were so nice to help out. I got back and Benji was so happy to see me. He was 40 pounds lighter, and now he sees a therapist twice a week.

Of course, we are having fun today. The test of this relationship will be over the long term. Will she still love [GROOM] when he leaves his underwear on the floor and cuts his toenails at the dinner table?

The answer is no. God, please, disgusting.

No, seriously, I know they will have challenges, as all relationships do. And [GROOM] will learn what all men learn eventually. Keep your wife happy! Happy wife, happy life.

No, really, what’s great about love, relationships, and marriage is learning to grow together. The amount of communication it takes to keep a marriage going is massive.

But half the fun is working things out, talking, communicating, and launching kitchen appliances at each other – real love.

Today has been a great day. The family and friends are here, the sun is shining, and the champagne is flowing. And we’ll need it to get through this chicken dinner.

For A Best Friend

“Hi, I’m [NAME], I am [BRIDE] maid of honor. I’ve known [BRIDE] since college, and since then, my life has changed for the better.

She is really one of my favorite people and one of the best humans on this planet.

When you asked me to be your maid of honor, I was overjoyed. The first thing I thought about was the bachelorette party!

I cannot put into words how much you mean to me. You know that I’m so happy for you and [GROOM], and I will be rooting for your relationship for the rest of my life.

When I met you, I was going through such a difficult time. You’ve taught me to be strong and always strive to be my best self.

There were times when I would almost lose it, then a phone call from you would make things so much better.

One of my favorite memories was when we went to the B2K concert and got a backstage pass from security. And we got to meet Omarion. We didn’t sneak in, nor did we pay for passes.

We got in all because you weren’t scared to just walk through. I followed you in, and because of your bravery, audacity, and fearlessness, I got to have one of the best nights of my life.

[GROOM], this is what you’re dealing with here! She’s a woman who is bold, fearless, and a badass!

My wish, if I get to have one, is for everyone to have a [BRIDE] in their life. She is the most loving and caring person that I’ve ever met.

Her heart is a reflection of what she does. And all she wants to do is take care of everyone around her. At the end of the day, she just wants everyone to love one another.

When you got engaged, I knew that this would be the best decision you’ve ever made. The smiles you both put on each other’s faces are fascinating, and I pray that you both remain happy forever.

I want to thank you so much for letting me be a part of this, and I want to wish you all the love and happiness in the world.

Now let’s toast to the bride and the groom!”

For A Sister

“Hello, my name is [NAME], [BRIDE]’s little sister. [BRIDE], You have been my backbone. The foundation for our family. I do not know where I would be without you.

I am so happy for you and [GROOM] and want to tell you both congratulations on your union. I know you guys will have so many wonderful moments together in your marriage.

[BRIDE], when mom died, you really showed me, our brother, and your son that nothing would ever break our bond. As long as we have each other, everything will be okay

Going through such a traumatic event like that should have made us all statistics. But because of you taking care of us, we are now successful people.

You’ve made us examples of how good could come from a bad situation.

Now that we are adults, all we want is for you to be happy and loved. And we know you’ve got that with [GROOM].

And [GROOM], get used to sister tattoos, sister bracelets, and hair emergencies. Welcome to the family!

Now that you’re officially a part of our cult, cheers to you both!“

Final Word

Now you know everything you need to craft the perfect maid of honor speech! Follow this guide and you’re bound to make the bride, groom, and guests cry with happiness.

Lisa Plaitt